FRIENDSHIP

“There are good ships and wood ships, ships that sail the sea, but the best ships are friendships, may they always be!” This Irish Proverb that I came across while doing my daily snippet sniffing touched some part of my mind I preferred untouched and a voice whispered, write. I guess I could call it my muse, an inspiration for me to bless you with my penmanship (another awesome kind of ship, lol).

I have friends. I have acquaintances. I have good friends. I have close friends.

People have friends and they have acquaintances. They have good friends, close friends and they have best friends.

Over the past many few months, my sleepless nights have been spent mulling over the concept of friendship. I was going through a very weird phase and I thought everyone was out to get me. I doubted all of the bonds I had and well I wanted a clearer understanding of it all. What is it? Is there an algorithm for friendship? How does one make new friends? This led me to a very insane past few months. I was a girl on a mission to try understand the concept of friendship and I decided to experiment and see how I could make new friends. After many trials and many fails, and with zero success, my experiments all failed. I simply wanted a SpongeBob and Patrick kind of friendship. Little did I know, I had it all.

I did some pretty crazy things in my pursuit of understanding and making friends. Some, I am not proud of. Like the letters and emails I wrote to make friends. Making friends should not be so hard. Being in friendships should also not be so hard.

Who is a friend? What qualifies one to be considered a friend? According to the dictionary, a friend is a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, one exclusive of sexual or family relations. If you were to ask me this question some one year ago, I would have just given you a vague answer. However, the past few many months have caused me to think and rethink about friends and who a friend is. Looking back to the many sleepless nights I spent chastising myself, asking myself some pretty disturbing questions, I would not say they were wasted. Thanks to them I guess I can say I understand the concept of friendship much more.

You see, as per human nature, we all need each other to survive. We need people we can interact with, people we can laugh with; people who can make us safe. We all need friends. While you may interact and get along with people and you may laugh with people, not everyone is your friend. That happens to be one of the areas that people confuse. People you know fall into various categories.

People you just know- who basically are just people you know. Like that neighbor that you never talk to, you just wave at each other, merely acknowledging each other’s existence. Acquaintances- who are people whom you know slightly. They are those people you talk to, whom you know each other to some small extent, but you would not count them as part of your circle. That classmate that sits next to you and you talk about the latest movie, or that person from your neighborhood with whom you share an interest of puppets and when you meet at the road you start blabbing about a puppet sale going on in the internet.

Friends- who are people with whom you have bonds with. Friends fall into various categories too. You have the normal friends, the good friends, and then you have the close friends and the best friends. The only difference between the kinds of friends you have is the strength of the bonds between you guys, the trust between you guys and ultimately the love and care between you all. The normal friends are just your regular friends. They are people you can talk to about normal everyday things. Depending on your level of openness, you may trust them with some of your life details and they also do the same. The good friends are those people whom you have a level of trust and openness, you can talk to them, but you may still have some inhibitions because while you both may know each other, you do not feel like you can tell them your personal issues.

Close friends are those friends whom you can trust. You call them your inner circle. You can talk to them about everything without fear of judgment, or hearing your stories out there. They are there for you during your worst moments and you reciprocate it too.

Best friends are those close friends that you can tell everything. You can share with them everything because you know them, and they know you, too well you may sometimes think. I am no expert here btw, I am just sharing my thoughts.

The point is, everyone is searching for friends and bonds. For some, making friends is easy. For others it is difficult. My big brother said something to me that made so much sense. He said a friend is someone who adds value to your life. Being content with the friends you have also goes a long way in it.

Identify the roles friends play in your life. Categorize them, and understand them. Friendship takes time. It needs nurturing and it grows over time. Being yourself helps attract people who are like you which in turn help to create a common ground for the basis of a bond to grow.

After my many insanities, I realized that a friend is someone who is always in your corner, whether you are right or wrong. They are someone who can drop everything in an instant for you and someone who has been through all the highs and lows with you. Friends transcend time and no matter the time apart, the bonds stay true if the friendship is true.

Friendship is a two-way street. You do not have to try so hard. When you feel as if you are alone, look closely and you will see those few persons who are always there. You may not communicate for days, even months, but when you need someone, they will always come through. Be glad and be proud of them. They are your truest treasures.

Friendship is like a pirate ship and the friends are the crew members, who are ultimately your greatest asset and most valuable treasure.

I have friends, I have good friends, I have close friends and I have best friends. They all hold special places in my heart and I know no matter what, they will always have my back, and I will always have theirs.

Dedicated to Aurelia. Thanks for being a good friend, a great fan and for pushing me to write when I could not.

POETRY CORNER… (Unrelated)

THE ARTISTA.
He works with his hands
A real talent at that
He sees to everyone’s demands
He blesses the people with his art.
His pencils his best friend
His accolades never seem to end
With each stroke shade and blend
A precious message he always tries to send.
His works are ever magnificent
His drawings telling tales of the present
Random scribbles as unique as a blue crescent
Each sketch leaving a beautiful visual scent.
Draw on and spread your work
Bless the world with each colorful spark
Leave a great unforgettable mark
Be it in color or in white and black.

BY _darkheartemoji_🖤🖤👸🏽

I bid you adieu. Listen to Alan Walker’s Alone Part 2. It fits this blog perfectly and is my favorite song in the world. Y’all take care, be happy and smile always. No book suggestions this time, I am too puzzled to recommend one.

Thanks for being my friend, and being my fan. Happiest birthdays to some of my close friends who are February babies. I leave you on this friendly note.