LOVE 🖤🤍❤️

According to Greek Mythology, humans were originally created with four legs, four arms and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them apart condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other half. Hence love and soul mates came to be. You have to admit, this is quite an interesting story/myth. I mean imagine what the humans looked like. Pretty terrifying if you ask my mind and the images it is conjuring.

What does one do at 2am when sleep refuses to attack? Some do laundry, others read books, and others listen to their metal playlist that they dare not share with anyone, others eat oranges and others write their blog. I am all of the above. It currently is 3.27am and I have chosen this hour to let you in on one of the topics my mind likes to ponder on at such weird hours.

LOVE. AMARE. UPENDO. RWENDO. AMAR. Whatever you call it in your language.

Love by definition is simply a range of strong and positive feelings, emotions and mental states that are often accompanied by acts of affection and acts of intimacy. I wouldn’t know of any better way to define it. We all know of love. We have all felt love. We have all loved and been loved. We have been loved and we have loved God, our parents, our families, our friends, our guardians, our caregivers, our spouses, our boyfriends/girlfriends.

There are different kinds of love depending on whom it is that we are giving our love to and on the nature of it. That however, is a story for another blog. Today, I write of this one kind of love. The Romantic kind of love as many of us would term it.

I like to think of the love that exists between lovers as a combination of two kinds of love. Eros and Philia. There will definitely be a blog delving deeper on these. In basic terms, eros is erotic, passionate love. It is a love that is based on need and attractiveness, more so sexual attractiveness. In our generation especially, it has been termed as quite the necessity for any relationship to grow. I’d say only three out of ten relationships can really thrive without this kind of love and intimacy. I personally view it as surface love. In my opinion, when the object of your love is no longer attractive on that basis, you get bored and leave them for another attractive conquest. It has become quite the cycle that most people nowadays end up sabotaging relationships and ending relationships or even cheating in the name of this person is no longer doing it for me. Eros is beautiful. It is sweet. It is passionate. It is quite interesting and very good to start the embers of a relationship, or reignite the spark if lost. However, eros can never build a long-term relationship all on its own. Eros is good for fun and all that shebang, but it eventually ends up dulling down and stilling.

Philia then makes an entry. This is the love between friends and equals. It is one of the most beautiful kinds of love. It is the acceptance of the love of good friendship. It is the bond of some good brotherhood and the warmth of some great sisterhood. Not the sibling kind of love but the bro-code kind of love. When lovers have been together for some time, eventually a bond that goes past all the sexual tension grows. With adequate time, this person becomes one of your closest friends and persons. They become your go-to person. Whenever you have a bad day, they are the one person you want to talk to or see, just to feel better. On the good days, they are the person you tell and you celebrate such days and your wins and successes with. This love is what makes a relationship. It is what makes a relationship worth fighting for even on the dark days and during the bad fights and arguments.

When eros and philia come together, damn that becomes one hell of a relationship. This is because eros helps fulfill the physical needs, while philia will satisfy the emotional needs. With both of these coming together, love can become a beautiful thing. Love actually is a beautiful thing.

Love is also accompanied by pain. The vulnerability that comes with it leaves us susceptible to heartbreak, tears and so much hurt. However, this should never deter you from experiencing love and giving love. It is not always pain and hurting. Sometimes, the pain is even worth it. My point is, do not let fear of getting hurt hinder you from experiencing so much joy and happiness. Similarly, do not let pressures from the world, from people, from your peers or parents push you into something you did not want. If you feel you are just unable to, take your time and just breathe and live. One day you will be ready and someone will be there for you, whether human or alien. I’d pick alien though. So much mystery, so much unknown, sounds like an adventure.

Anyways, that being said, I do hope you have the love, find the love, or be the love you are always wishing for.

POETRY BLOCK!!!

THE LOVE OF MY LIFE

 Baby I can’t start to fathom

Side by side we’re at home

When speaking gibberish is all I can form

And loving each other seems like a norm

We’re scared of an approaching storm

But together I know we are the storm.

Boo we swore forever and always

True to that word you’ve been always

A promise kept even on the dark days

Regardless of the times we’ve gone our separate ways

You always come back to brighten my days

With you days go by in a haze

I love you is all I can say in this daze.

The intensity at times gets scary

And at times we get defensive and wary

The trust we have though tells us not to worry

Each day we add new chapters to our story

We may tire and be weary

But ours is a true love story

Even on the days when it gets dark and teary.

The love we share

Is one where we both care

Ours is a song so rare

Beyond the limits we always dare

In each other’s eyes we get lost as we stare

Forever and always, we are a sure pair

Forever and always, I will be there

In infinite universes, I will still be there.

I love you Dumbass (iykyk).

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I am personally waiting on my alien love, or the main character from my book NYSM. We shall have beautiful purple babies in a foreign land. They will be so intelligent that their skulls will have an opening to let cool air in, because their brains will always be working. Can you imagine the things they would be able to invent? Goshhhh, I am excited just thinking about it. Anyways, find me in a cottage in the woods all alone in some years, or at least attend my wedding to a library. I feel you have had enough of my relationship goals. If I continue I might scar some of you or even scare you away from my blog and we do not want that.

Being in a relationship is nice though. Right now, I would not be doing laundry and writing at 3am, I would be typing a long email to someone. I would be poking someone in the face with a pencil. I would be plotting a murder scene with someone. I would be making pancakes or food for someone. These are the things I love and sort of miss about the whole thing. Waking up to a poem written just for me, knowing someone is always rooting for me, having someone to remind me of how awesome I am (but I do have me and I am awesome), yes, it is all nice. I would advise getting into a relationship and loving someone and enjoying the whole thing.

Well, my time over here is up. I have classes very early and I wouldn’t want to doze off in class.

Love and love some more. My favorite Poet says: Vivamus mea Lesbia, atque amemus! Let us live, my lesbia (my darling/love) and let us love.